- 07 janv. 2013, 11:56
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Voilà, j'ai rédigé une tartine pour essayer de récupérer mon ex. Je lui fais ses éloges et je lui raconte tout ce qu'il rêve d'entendre. Je me suis vachement remise en question aussi !!!
Ce n'est PAS une lettre dans laquelle j'essaie de le récupérer (c'est ce qu'il doit comprendre) c'est pour lui expliquer de long en large pourquoi j'agissais mal vis à vis de lui pendant et après la rupture, sans lui dire des trucs du genre "je t'aime, reviens, j'ai changé". J'espère de tout mon coeur que ça le fera réagir dans le bon sens, car j'ai complétement changé de discours (je lui avais envoyé une première lettre pathétique au début de la rupture. Là ça fait deux mois et demi qu'on n'est plus ensemble et un mois qu'on se cause plus (bien qu'il ait répondu et pris de mes news à mes sms du nouvel an, pas bien je sais).
Seulement voilà ma lettre est en anglais car il parle pas français (il est hollandais mais comme je parle pas bien néerlandais du coup on parle anglais). Ca serait vraiment adorable si quelqu'un qui s'y connait en anglais pouvait la lire et me donner des conseils et des critiques.
MERCI
Voici la lettre :
Hello,
As you can see i'm writting to you once again. Please read it. Perhaps you are not interested in but i promess i tried to make it short. It's important for me that you know why i acted bad in the relationship and after we broke up.
I had some time alone to think about it since we dont talk anymore. First i would like to say that i know you gave a lot energy in us, and i respect that you truly wanted to do good for us and how disappointing were my reactions. I know that i was too much demanding when we were together. I didnt accept the way you loved me, and i always wanted ''more'' because in my mind i had created a model of the perfect couple. So i felt a lot of frustration, and it was not respectful to you. But i was stubborn and i wanted too much things always went in my way. But you did your job very nice and you were sweet. I was also hurted when i thought you didn't want to see me for example, and there were no reason to worry about that, because it was not true and sometimes with the distance it was not possible to see each other when we wanted. I became angry very fast and every single things that went a little bit wrong was enormous for me. I created problems that didnt exist between us. Thats why i was so mad sometimes.
At that time i couldn't communicate about that because i just didn't know what to say, that's why i didn't want to talk about me when you asked from where it came from. It was a vicious circle and i didn't know anymore what was the right or the wrong reactions to face problems. And i just didnt want to think about it neither. I thought it had no really importance because you were still with me. But this way it was impossible for us to continue.
So that could only lead us to a breaking up. My behaviour wouldn't be bearable in the long run as long as i didnt understand that. And i believe its meant to be that we broke up because otherwise i would have never opened my eyes.
Also my biggest mistake when it was over was that i wanted everything too fast, i didn't let you think. Since the first day i should have let you go without hoping anything but it came so suddenly i was just not ready mentally to face it. We had way too much contact and that's why i acted stupid, in totally opposition with my feelings and my goal, until you ran away from me definitly. That's not really what we wanted, i think? So in those conditions i understand why you didn't gave me an other chance, if you planned to do that.
But i'm so happy it happened i regret nothing. Today i'm in a totally other state of mind for myself, for my next relationship, for my life in general. I feel more assertive and more positive, and i feel very good now. Life is short and i worried too much about things without importance. I spoiled our moments for nothing. I know what i did wrong and that taught me to never do it again with anyone. Every romance are special, and ours was very special for me. It also leaves a scar i will not forget, but i will also keep in memory the best we shared together, and there were a lot.
Thats all i wanted to say. I hope it's not too long for you and its your right to take it or not into account. I dont expect any answers. I know the arm i did can't be erased but i just felt i had to tell you. It helps me to move on heart-lighted.
From now on, i truly promess you will never hear anything about me again. In the end i hope this letter helped you to understand me better.
Em.
Ce n'est PAS une lettre dans laquelle j'essaie de le récupérer (c'est ce qu'il doit comprendre) c'est pour lui expliquer de long en large pourquoi j'agissais mal vis à vis de lui pendant et après la rupture, sans lui dire des trucs du genre "je t'aime, reviens, j'ai changé". J'espère de tout mon coeur que ça le fera réagir dans le bon sens, car j'ai complétement changé de discours (je lui avais envoyé une première lettre pathétique au début de la rupture. Là ça fait deux mois et demi qu'on n'est plus ensemble et un mois qu'on se cause plus (bien qu'il ait répondu et pris de mes news à mes sms du nouvel an, pas bien je sais).
Seulement voilà ma lettre est en anglais car il parle pas français (il est hollandais mais comme je parle pas bien néerlandais du coup on parle anglais). Ca serait vraiment adorable si quelqu'un qui s'y connait en anglais pouvait la lire et me donner des conseils et des critiques.
MERCI
Voici la lettre :
Hello,
As you can see i'm writting to you once again. Please read it. Perhaps you are not interested in but i promess i tried to make it short. It's important for me that you know why i acted bad in the relationship and after we broke up.
I had some time alone to think about it since we dont talk anymore. First i would like to say that i know you gave a lot energy in us, and i respect that you truly wanted to do good for us and how disappointing were my reactions. I know that i was too much demanding when we were together. I didnt accept the way you loved me, and i always wanted ''more'' because in my mind i had created a model of the perfect couple. So i felt a lot of frustration, and it was not respectful to you. But i was stubborn and i wanted too much things always went in my way. But you did your job very nice and you were sweet. I was also hurted when i thought you didn't want to see me for example, and there were no reason to worry about that, because it was not true and sometimes with the distance it was not possible to see each other when we wanted. I became angry very fast and every single things that went a little bit wrong was enormous for me. I created problems that didnt exist between us. Thats why i was so mad sometimes.
At that time i couldn't communicate about that because i just didn't know what to say, that's why i didn't want to talk about me when you asked from where it came from. It was a vicious circle and i didn't know anymore what was the right or the wrong reactions to face problems. And i just didnt want to think about it neither. I thought it had no really importance because you were still with me. But this way it was impossible for us to continue.
So that could only lead us to a breaking up. My behaviour wouldn't be bearable in the long run as long as i didnt understand that. And i believe its meant to be that we broke up because otherwise i would have never opened my eyes.
Also my biggest mistake when it was over was that i wanted everything too fast, i didn't let you think. Since the first day i should have let you go without hoping anything but it came so suddenly i was just not ready mentally to face it. We had way too much contact and that's why i acted stupid, in totally opposition with my feelings and my goal, until you ran away from me definitly. That's not really what we wanted, i think? So in those conditions i understand why you didn't gave me an other chance, if you planned to do that.
But i'm so happy it happened i regret nothing. Today i'm in a totally other state of mind for myself, for my next relationship, for my life in general. I feel more assertive and more positive, and i feel very good now. Life is short and i worried too much about things without importance. I spoiled our moments for nothing. I know what i did wrong and that taught me to never do it again with anyone. Every romance are special, and ours was very special for me. It also leaves a scar i will not forget, but i will also keep in memory the best we shared together, and there were a lot.
Thats all i wanted to say. I hope it's not too long for you and its your right to take it or not into account. I dont expect any answers. I know the arm i did can't be erased but i just felt i had to tell you. It helps me to move on heart-lighted.
From now on, i truly promess you will never hear anything about me again. In the end i hope this letter helped you to understand me better.
Em.
