Conseil lettre !!! pour ceux qui parlent ANGLAIS

[Khatz]

Voilà, j'ai rédigé une tartine pour essayer de récupérer mon ex. Je lui fais ses éloges et je lui raconte tout ce qu'il rêve d'entendre. Je me suis vachement remise en question aussi !!!

Ce n'est PAS une lettre dans laquelle j'essaie de le récupérer (c'est ce qu'il doit comprendre) c'est pour lui expliquer de long en large pourquoi j'agissais mal vis à vis de lui pendant et après la rupture, sans lui dire des trucs du genre "je t'aime, reviens, j'ai changé". J'espère de tout mon coeur que ça le fera réagir dans le bon sens, car j'ai complétement changé de discours (je lui avais envoyé une première lettre pathétique au début de la rupture. Là ça fait deux mois et demi qu'on n'est plus ensemble et un mois qu'on se cause plus (bien qu'il ait répondu et pris de mes news à mes sms du nouvel an, pas bien je sais).

Seulement voilà ma lettre est en anglais car il parle pas français (il est hollandais mais comme je parle pas bien néerlandais du coup on parle anglais). Ca serait vraiment adorable si quelqu'un qui s'y connait en anglais pouvait la lire et me donner des conseils et des critiques.

MERCI

Voici la lettre :

Hello,

As you can see i'm writting to you once again. Please read it. Perhaps you are not interested in but i promess i tried to make it short. It's important for me that you know why i acted bad in the relationship and after we broke up.

I had some time alone to think about it since we dont talk anymore. First i would like to say that i know you gave a lot energy in us, and i respect that you truly wanted to do good for us and how disappointing were my reactions. I know that i was too much demanding when we were together. I didnt accept the way you loved me, and i always wanted ''more''  because in my mind i had created a model of the perfect couple. So i felt a lot of frustration, and it was not respectful to you. But i was stubborn and i wanted too much things always went in my way. But you did your job very nice and you were sweet. I was also hurted when i thought you didn't want to see me for example, and there were no reason to worry about that, because it was not true and sometimes with the distance it was not possible to see each other when we wanted. I became angry very fast and every single things that went a little bit wrong was enormous for me. I created problems that didnt exist between us. Thats why i was so mad sometimes.

At that time i couldn't communicate about that because i just didn't know what to say, that's why i didn't want to talk about me when you asked from where it came from. It was a vicious circle and i didn't know anymore what was the right or the wrong reactions to face problems. And i just didnt want to think about it neither. I thought it had no really importance because you were still with me. But this way it was impossible for us to continue.

So that could only lead us to a breaking up. My behaviour wouldn't be bearable in the long run as long as i didnt understand that. And i believe its meant to be that we broke up because otherwise i would have never opened my eyes.

Also my biggest mistake when it was over was that i wanted everything too fast, i didn't let you think. Since the first day i should have let you go without hoping anything but it came so suddenly i was just not ready mentally to face it. We had way too much contact and that's why i acted stupid, in totally opposition with my feelings and my goal, until you ran away from me definitly. That's not really what we wanted, i think? So in those conditions i understand why you didn't gave me an other chance, if you planned to do that.

But i'm so happy it happened i regret nothing. Today i'm in a totally other state of mind for myself, for my next relationship, for my life in general. I feel more assertive and more positive, and i feel very good now. Life is short and i worried too much about things without importance. I spoiled our moments for nothing. I know what i did wrong and that taught me to never do it again with anyone. Every romance are special, and ours was very special for me. It also leaves a scar i will not forget, but i will also keep in memory the best we shared together, and there were a lot.

Thats all i wanted to say. I hope it's not too long for you and its your right to take it or not into account. I dont expect any answers. I know the arm i did can't be erased but i just felt i had to tell you. It helps me to move on heart-lighted.

From now on, i truly promess you will never hear anything about me again. In the end i hope this letter helped you to understand me better.

Em.

[JRME]

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[LDCN]

Bah j'trouve que c'est vraiment pas mal !

[Aniac]

Je me permets de corriger ! Pour mon curriculum, je sors d'une licence Anglais :)

Bon grossomodo, j'ai mis mon grain de sel un peu partout mais tu as un anglais trés trés correct !

 

Hello,

As you can see i'm writting to you once again. Please read it. Perhaps you are not interested in but i promise i tried to make it short. It's important for me to let you know why i acted badly during the relationship and also after we broke up.

I had several moments to think about it, since we dont talk to each other anymore. First i would like to say that i know you put a lot energy in us, and i respect the fact that you truly wanted to do it good for us and how disappointing were my reactions. I know that i was too much demanding when we were together. I didnt accept the way you loved me, and i always wanted ''more'' because in my mind i had created a model of the perfect relationship. So i felt a lot of frustration, and it was not respectful towards you. But i was stubborn and...je vois pas trop ce que tu veux dire là ^^ que tu voulais que les choses aillent dans ton sens ?. But you did your job very well and you were sweet. I was also hurted when i thought you didn't want to see me for example, and there were no reason to worry about that, because it was not true and sometimes with the distance it was not possible to see each other when we wanted. I became angry very fast and every single things that went a little bit wrong was enormous for me. I created problems that didnt exist between us. Thats why i was so mad sometimes.

At that time i couldn't talk about that because i just didn't know what to say, that's why i didn't want to talk about me when you asked from where it came from. It was a vicious circle (pas la même traduction en anglais mais ça fera l'affaire, tu peux laisser comme ça) and i didn't know anymore what was the right or the wrong reactions to face problems. And i just didnt want to think about it either. I thought it had no really importance because you were still with me. But this way, it was impossible for us to continue.

So that led us to brake up. My behaviour wouldn't be bearable in the long run as long as i didnt understand that (là aussi, j'ai un doute sur le sens ^^). And i believe that's why we broke up because otherwise i would have never opened my eyes.

Also, my biggest mistake, when it was over, was that i wanted everything too fast, i didn't let you think. Since the first day, i should have let you go without hoping anything but it came so suddenly, i was just not ready mentally to face it. We had way (là aussi, je vois pas, we had way = nous avons moyen)) too much contact and that's why i acted stupidly, in totally opposition with my feelings and my aim, until you ran away from me definitly. That's not really what we wanted, is it ? So in those conditions i understand why you didn't gave me an other chance, if you planned to do that.

But i'm so happy it happened, i regret nothing. Today i'm in a totally other state of mind for myself, for my next relationship, for my life in general. I feel more assertive and more positive, and i feel very good now. Life is short and i worried too much about things without importance. I spoiled our moments for nothing. I know what i did wrong and that taught me to never do it again with anyone else. Every romance are special, and ours was very special for me. It also leaves a scar i will not forget, but i will also keep in memory the best we shared together, and there was a lot.

That's all i wanted to say. I hope it's not too long for you and it's your right to take it or not into account. I don't expect any answers. I know the arm (là aussi ^^, je sais que le bras que j'ai fais ?) i did can't be erased but i just felt i had to tell it to you. It helps me to move on heart-lighted.

From now on, i truly promise you will never hear anything about me again. In the end i hope this letter helped you to understand me better.

Em.

[Boubla]

Every romance are special, and ours was very special for me. It also leaves a scar i will not forget, but i will also keep in memory the best we shared together, and there were a lot.

j'aime beaucoup cette partie.

Par contre vire la partie ou tu dis qu'il n'entendra plus jamais parler de toi. Si tu es ici c'est que quelque part tu veux quand meme le recuperer.

Ton S.R voudra plus dire que cette phrase qui pourra l'empecher de te recontacter.

Sinon c'est bien ecrit. Bravo :)

[Aniac]

Pas trop d'accord Boubla, je me permets d'exposer mon avis :

Moi je pense qu'elle a eu raison. Vaut mieux qu'elle lui dise qu'elle desire faire son chemin, que de laisser une porte ouverte, sinon il ne reviendra jamais, puisque justement, il saura qu'elle l'attend la porte ouverte ! ^^

Suis moi, je te fuis, etc...

Je trouve que tu as trés bien parlé Khatz. Moi je dirais de ne pas virer ce passage, ne t'inquiétes pas, c'est en coupant tout les ponts qu'ils reagissent.

[Boubla]

Bah justement si elle lui parle plus , il va s'en rendre compte lui même non ?

Là elle ferme juste la porte. Pour moi c'est pas bon.

[Aniac]

On est d'accord, qu'elle dise ou pas qu'elle ne lui parlera plus, de toutes façons, il va s'en rendre compte de lui même.

Peu importe, si elle veut le dire, le resultat sera le même : elle lui parlera pas dans tout les cas. ;)

Bref, theorie comme une autre qui me rapelle que rien n'est previsible en amour donc laissons tomber, avant de rentrer dans un debat comme il y en a tant sur ce forum.

Ta lettre est parfaite Khatz ! Bye !

[Boubla]

Je veux dire on est pas sur Jerecuperemonex.com?

Lol je crois que justement si elle veut lui envoyer cette lettre c'est aussi parce qu'elle espere qu'il la recontacte... Sinon elle ne serait pas ici non?

Ou alors tu fais ça pour te vider le coeur ? Si c'est le cas alors ma remarque ne vaut rien. Si tu veux le recuperer et que le but de ton silence est de le faire se questionner sur toi alors vire la partie dont je te parle :)

[UneFemme]

mais peut être que le fait de lui dire "ok je te contacte plus" ça va le faire réfléchir, il se dira peut être que la balle est dans son camp?

[annick15]

Trop de mots affaiblit le sens de chaque mot.

J'aime beaucoup la premiere partie de la lettre, mais la 2e tue la maturite de la 1ere partie de la lettre.

Quand on ecrit, ne n'apelle plus ou tu n'entendras plus parler de noi, ca veux dire le contraire!! On ne l'ecrit pas, on agit!! Ne marque pas que tu n'attends pas de reponse a sa lettre. Il aura peut-etre envie de te repondre!!

Courage, (ma mere était Hollandaise) bisous

[Aniac]

mais peut être que le fait de lui dire "ok je te contacte plus" ça va le faire réfléchir, il se dira peut être que la balle est dans son camp?

 

voilà :)